Author + Speaker + Dating and Relationships Expert

The Truth about Online Dating

Online dating. It seems that every single woman and every unattached man has an opinion about online dating. Nothing seems to polarize single adults the way online dating does, because it seems that you either love it or hate it.

So, do you love online dating? Or do you hate online dating?

Why I Like Online Dating

Let me tell you where I stand on this topic. I’m in the “love it” group. I happen to be a big fan of this modern technology that makes it easy to find out who is single in your area, get some quick information about them, look at their photos, and then get in touch with the singles who seem interesting to you.

Yes, I recognize that not everyone on or tells the absolute truth about themselves. Yes, I think there are some people who should have their Online Dating Licenses revoked because they don’t seem to know how to play by the rules.

But in spite of the “bad apples” who can give online dating a bad reputation, I still think it’s a great way to meet someone special. I found “The One” online, and I do not believe I would have ever found her if both of us hadn’t taken the leap of faith and put up our online dating profiles. We lived more than an hour’s drive apart, and there’s just no way we would have met if it hadn’t been for the 21st century phenomenon known as online dating.

So once you make the big decision to give online dating a try, what can you do to increase the odds that you are going to meet the Love of Your Life?

Well, for starters, begin by following the honor system–because you are an honorable person. Be one of the shining online dating individuals who always tells the truth. Instead of using that great photo of you that was taken 10 years ago, get a new photo taken of how you look today. Before you say anything about yourself online, ask yourself if it’s completely true. Sure, you want to give the best impression of yourself that you can. But you don’t need to tell lies (big or small) to make yourself sound good. Be honest and be positive, because that’s the kind of person you want to attract.

When you begin your online dating experience with that as your guideline, your chances of finding high-quality dates goes up dramatically. The power of your intentions and your expectations will work online just as they do in the everyday world of meeting and talking to people in your life. Based on the many people who I have interviewed on the topic of online dating, if you believe that there are lots of jerks out there in the online world, a high percentage of those jerks are sure to find you.

I realize that online dating is a big topic, and I’ve merely scratched the surface of this important issue. So in a later post, I’ll talk more about the specific things you can do to improve your odds of meeting the man or woman of your dreams online.

Chad Stone is the author of The Love Magnet Rules: 101 Tips for Meeting, Dating, and Keeping a New Love. It’s available on as a paperback and an ebook. 

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